The other face

“Why do we always raise hands in favor of girls-to sympathize with them? We boys are not always wrong…” he said to me after reading an article in Times of India. His statement was a general opinion. To anyone listening, he would be ‘the mocking bird’; the icon of social sarcasm. But for me, I could sense in his words, an unmistakable pain, an evident wave of frustration and delusion. But it wasn’t always so. I have known him better.
‘Kushagra Shekhar’- I knew him since childhood. But today at this period of time, I noticed many changes in him which were expected with time, but one of the major changes was in his attitude towards girls. The guy who used to be happy, always ready to help fellow human beings: has changed especially in matter of girls. Now he does not trust any girl, thinks a lot before approaching a girl. When I turned up the pages of his diary…it reminded me the things which turned him like this which I would like to share with you all.
I start from the beginning, from his school days. In school time he was very helpful and innocent. He was always ready to help anyone. But in school he was used by the girls. They always sought help from kushagra and as per his nature, he selflessly helped them, but his help was considered merely his duty to impress them, they considered it as their status of being popular, but never considered it as a help of a person to another person, which forced him to think about his helpful nature specially when it came to girls. After that I never saw that helpful nature for girls. Now after considering all these things he started to think a lot before helping a girl and often he would ignore them.
Later he came into his college life with a thinking of new start. After sometime, he developed feelings for one of his classmate. He simply asked her out, she declined but after this, things really changed for him. He became a topic of gossip among girls. They laughed at him, raised questions on his character, called him an idiot, and destroyed his image in such a drastic manner that he could not have any friend among girls. His decent behavior was considered a tactic to impress girls. Girls created such an awkward situations around him that led to big depression in him which he never deserved only just for asking a girl out. Without knowing his side, his feelings, he had already been punished by the society, declared as a wimp in a society and a laughing material for peoples of his college.
Most sad part of his story was that if someone from boy side used to come to know about his situations whether it be school or college, then instead of going to him and know about actual incidence and to stand with kushagra, he thought in girls favor, just floated this news all around among boys just to laugh upon him, with girls they all enjoyed his situations.
Now after facing all these things, he came into his professional or in his job life. After facing all these, now he had become bit of introvert in nature, but here he faced the opposite situation. Here a girl asked him out, he denied but after this , things again changed for him. He again became a hot topic among girls, but this time not to laugh but to declare him as ‘rude’, ‘flirty’, ‘arrogant’ etc.. so again they harmed his reputation. Look, to deny a girl is never an easy task for any of the boy, seriously it requires lot of guts and very high character, and if he did so, there was very strong reason behind that decision considering all the facts and situations after commitment but who cared about it, his reputation had already been ruined.
Now after facing all these he had been changed, his helpful nature which we seldom find in any person of this selfish world was killed by society and after going through all the situations which were faced by him, if he thinks as he thought after reading that article of times of India, then we are no one to blame him. Was it his fault that he was helpful? Was it his fault that some feelings developed in him for that girl and when she denied, he continued to behave with decency, never annoyed that girl? Was it his fault that he behaved with maturity and thinking the real future of relation, he denied that girl? But look at all the results he got from the society, i don’t think that he deserved all these..do you????
Now I would like to remind that we boys also have character and if someone raises question on that, it is embarrassing for us too. But we don’t ballyhoo as done by the girls if same happens with them in fact they don’t have any right to raise a question on character of any of the guy, first of all they must think about the circumstances created by them only around that boy that caused a big depression in that boy, which sometimes changes the actual nature of the boy.
I am writing this article because his case is not the exceptional one. I found all these situations very often all around in this world when peoples used to fire up and starts enjoying the agony of boy without considering the actual fact. So, I request all of you reading this article that if you raise your hand to sympathize any of girls then please do (if it is really required).But same should be with boys also. In fact your hands should be raised to sympathize a person, to help a person, not to a boy or a girl, and if you really can’t help a boy then at least think twice before blaming a boy without knowing the actual incidence or without knowing the boys sides too, because we boys are not always wrong, sometimes it may be girls….